Our eyes have vision boundaries. This is also known as the field of vision. It’s about 200 degrees horizontally and about 135 degrees vertically. This field of vision is calculated with the eye not moved.

As most of us are aware, a complete circle is 360 degrees.

One can conclude that we have limited vision. In other words, we have a boundary, and it’s safe to assume that we will not have visibility into all aspects of one’s life.

The same principle should be applied to any relationship. Your partner and you will NOT have complete visibility into each other’s lives.

When you don’t have complete visibility into each other’s lives. Understandably, you are not aware of some aspects of others’ lives.

These excluded areas mainly consist of other significant aspects of their life. Important then you, include work, duties towards their parents and the duties towards the nation.

Other excluded areas will include exclusive hobbies, interests, and friend circle before your arrival.

Our brain is curious. It wants to explore unknowns. If it’s not able to explore the unknowns, it will fill these voids with imagination. Such imaginations, in many cases, will be the worst case imaginable.

Side Note: Thanks to evolution and survival calibration, our brain’s default configuration is set to worst case. So don’t be surprised if you mostly end up thinking bad things. It’s natural.

Naturally, one might ask, Why do we need boundaries in a relationship? In other words, why should one limit the visibility into a partner’s life? After all, we promised to share life and extend everything.

In my limited opinion, I think there is no universal answer to this question, nor should one attempt to find or draft such.

Everyone’s experience is different. Thus, my experience must be different from that of yours (readers). With this caveat, I will try to answer the question for you.

Boundaries are good. Anything in excess is poison. If you (my partner) know every aspect of my life, I will lose the ability to surprise you. Surprises, whether romantic or otherwise happy, are an essential part of any relationship.

Side Note: Please ensure such surprises aren’t part of your partner’s worst imagination. I believe this hint and limit about surprises is good enough.

Another practical aspect of boundaries is that they limit the impact of events happening in each cluster.

You had a fight with your partner. You don’t share these details with your circle of friends. They will not bother you either. In the same way, if you and one of your friends had some misunderstanding, the details don’t need to be discussed with the partner. Again, this example is not universal.

So, Boundaries allows you to continue surprising your partner and safeguard yourself from emotional spill-overs.

However, the boundaries must be set explicitly after explaining and taking the partner into confidence. If your partner is not confident, you can just loop them in, and hopefully, after experiencing things firsthand, they will appreciate setting up the premises.